You’ve got this.

I promise…

I encourage all couples to write their own vows. It really brings out the connection between you both.

Writing vows can be a very daunting experience but don’t worry, I have you covered. Below is a cheat sheet on how to write vows. I have also included a few examples that you can take inspiration from. And don’t worry about memorising them – I will have them printed for you on the day.

Vows consist of two parts. The first part has to be said as a legal requirement: “I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, – take you, – to be my lawful wedded wife/husband/spouse”. This is then followed by your words that can be either a standard statement or a customised version. Vows can consist of any wording that you prefer, so long as the legal wording is included.

Example 1

I will take you in my arms when you need to be held.
I will listen when you need to talk. 
I will laugh with you in times of joy, and comfort you in times of sadness.
I will love you for who you are, and help you to become all that you can be.
I will age gracefully with you/grow old with you. 
This is my commitment to you, now and forever.

Example 2

You are my best friend, my confidant and one of my favourite pests. You make me laugh and cry, you are honest and wise. You always love me no matter what. You have always managed to help me through bad times and I cannot imagine my life without you. 

Today, I want to make a promise to you and to myself, in front of our friends and family, to love, honour and protect you for all the days of my life.

Example 3

I promise to be your lover, companion and friend.
Your partner in parenthood.
Your ally in conflict.
Your greatest fan and your toughest adversary.
Your comrade in adventure.
Your student and your teacher.
Your consolation in disappointment.
Your accomplice in mischief.
This is my sacred vow to you, my equal in all things.

The easiest way to start the process of writing vows is to think about…

  • What does that person do for you that makes you feel amazing? 

  • What is amazing about them? 

  • What is the connection that you have with each other? 

  • What promises do you want to make that show your genuine feelings and love for them? 

  • What promises do you want to make that will allow them to be all that they can be?